How does the stigma of obesity impact your self-perception?
Do others' perceptions of you inform how you view your own body? What impact have they had on your experience with obesity?
People have looked at the size of my body and made an immediate judgement. Not just fat but lazy, stupid, not motivated, not competent for the job she's in. I took on many of those perceptions and made them my own for many years.
It really saddens and angers me that people are so quick to judge. They don't know you and they have no right. Have you learned to tune those people out over time? Gentle hugs. - Lori (Team Member)
I can say growing up and all my life ive been made to feel insignificant, non existent, worthless, unloved, the butt of everyone's jokes, horrible, no self esteem, internalized the teasing by punishing myself with food for comfort. Now at 46 I'm seeing all this, working through everything, been in 12 step program for my eating addiction and learning to love myself not punishing, forgive those who have harmed me and learning how to live life on life's terms one day at a time.
My heart aches for your younger self, but what an awesome path you are on. Anger only hurts those who harbor it, so forgiveness can be incredibly healthy -- physically and mentally. I hope the 12-step program is effective and that you are able to break that addiction. Regardless, learning to love yourself is a huge accomplishment. Thanks for joining the conversation. Warmly, Lori (Team Member)
Negatively, patronizing, unworthy, isolating and the butt of cruel jokes.
It's heartbreaking to hear that your experience with obesity has left you feeling that way. No one should ever have to carry the burden of such hurtful and demeaning treatment. You are not your weight, and I hope those words don’t prevent you from seeing the value within yourself. Please know that you deserve kindness, respect, and dignity, regardless of your body size. Sending lots of love and light your way. – Lori (Team Member)
No. I don't care nor have I ever cared what people think of me. Those that know me, love me regardless of my weight. As for the rest, I don't give a damn what they think.
It must be so freeing to have this mentality,
. How do you maintain it? Do you feel the support of your loved ones helps? - Courtney (Team Member)
