Let’s Talk Obesity: Perceptions and Identity

A life with obesity comes with layers of complexity. It’s more than just a number on the scale—it’s about our identity, how others perceive our bodies, and how that perception influences our interactions every day. We're left to grapple with societal judgments, phrases that feels harmful, and varying degrees of representation in media.

Who feels safe to talk to?

Conversations about body and weight are deeply personal, yet the level of comfort in discussing these topics varies based on who we're talking to.

Doctors, in particular, are a complicated group when it comes to discussing weight. While they should be a source of guidance and support, some individuals feel judged or dismissed when bringing up concerns unrelated to weight. The stigma in medical settings can make it difficult to seek care, reinforcing feelings of frustration and isolation.

Self-identification: More than a label

The words used to describe body size carry significant weight—literally and emotionally. While some embrace terms like "fat" or "plus-sized" as part of their identity, others find those labels triggering. Language shapes perception, and when certain words have historically been used as insults, it’s understandable why they can evoke strong emotional reactions. The reality is, no single term can capture the fullness of our experiences, and the most important perspective is the one we choose for ourselves.

Media representation: Progress or a problem?

Representation matters. Seeing accurate portrayals of larger bodies in media can be validating and affirming. Mainstream media can still fall short in depicting people with extra weight in an authentic way.

When plus-sized individuals are featured in media, they are often boxed into stereotypes—the "funny best friend," the "self-conscious side character," or the person on a never-ending weight loss journey. Rarely are they simply existing as full, complex individuals. While social media has allowed for more body diversity, do you feel it still has a long way to go in ensure that larger bodies are represented with the same depth and nuance as thinner counterparts?

Reclaiming the obesity narrative

Living with obesity means navigating a world that often makes assumptions about our worth, health, and ability. It means dealing with unsolicited comments, navigating stigmatized medical care, and pushing back against unrealistic media portrayals. But it also means finding a community, embracing self-definition, and demanding better representation and respect.

As we continue these conversations, one thing remains clear: we deserve to define our bodies on our own terms, without judgment or assumption. Whether through language, self-identification, or media representation, our goal is not just acceptance but true inclusivity, where all bodies are seen, valued, and respected.